Pornography: a tool for enhancing a couple’s sex life

Pornography has been around for eons, in fact, archeologists have found erotic drawings on cave walls dating back thousands of years. Although pornographic pictures and films are regularly viewed by both genders, men seem to make up the greater part of the viewing audience. Is the attraction to the pornographic material part of human sexuality? Is viewing porn a practice which could actually be harmful?

Pornography can have immense aphrodisiac power for some people but it is a very personal choice. What turns on the firs person may turn off the second one. It is very much like sex in that most people enjoy it but many are ashamed to admit it.

Puritans preach that pornography is evil and addictive but if this was the case, surely all those police detectives and judges who regularly view hundreds of hours of pornography used as evidence in criminal trials should have become heavily addicted monsters a long time ago?

Different types of scenarios

While women watch the same amount of porn as men do, men and women tend to prefer different types of scenarios. Males tend to like scenarios depicting group sex and oral sex without any requirement for the actors to know each other or have any type of relationship other than sexual, while females prefer one-on-one settings where there is a love story involved. Some couples like to watch together while in other cases each may watch their choices separately or only one partner might find it appealing, so he/she watches while the other partner goes off and reads a book, chats on the phone or soaks in the tub.

There are hundreds of good books, held in high esteem by sophisticated literary critics which are very, very steamy so that a person who claims to be disgusted by pornography and prefers to read a book may really be reading porn. So you see, porn is whatever you define it to be. If it turns you on, enjoy it!

Enhancing a couple’s sex life

Along with sharing fantasies, many couples include pornography in their foreplay. Like sexual fantasies, porn is not lacking in variety. Sometimes partners consider living-out their fantasies, temporarily setting-aside the boundaries of the relationship to enjoy a new sexual experience. Unfortunately, many relationships have encountered significant problems after the experience. These videos can provide a visualization of the fantasy without having to place the relationship in jeopardy. It doesn’t mean couples shouldn’t explore if both are in agreement, but it is the risk should be weighed beforehand and other options should be considered.

Is porn a positive or a negative?

Pornography can serve as a means to explore different sexuality or lifestyle. Partners living a monogamous relationship can watch videos of group sex, gang bangs, or men and women having threesomes. The bi-curious can watch bisexual or gay videos; virtually every type of lifestyle imaginable is readily available. While some view porn as a means to enhance sex within a relationship, or a way to increase arousal during masturbation, others see it quite differently. It is viewed by many as a way to promote deviant behavior.

Should caution be used?

There are thousands of porn sites on the internet so if you wish to explore them it could take you the rest of your life. The best way to find good porn is to ask a friend or go to an adult video store and ask for suggestions. On the Internet, it does have to be careful since some porn sites are set up for the sole purpose of luring unsuspecting surfers in for the purpose of phishing or getting users to send sensitive information such as credit card numbers or passwords to them. Another thing: If you visit a porn site they will keep on sending you very racy advertisements for a long time so if you don’t want to have a flood of porno advertisements in your In Box, set up a second email account specifically for that purpose. Google and Yahoo are also watching what search terms you use and which sites you click on. Once they determine that you are interested in porn, they will direct that type of advertising to you for months after the fact, and they will show up on practically every page you visit until the end of time.

Overexposure to pornography isn’t healthy. Just as with alcohol or drugs it can easily become addictive. These people usually watch it alone, for hours on end, and become less and less involved with their partners. This is obviously not a desirable trend. Those who become addicted to porn find themselves having difficulty reaching the desired level of arousal, a situation with could lead to risky sexual behavior. An example of this would be the activity that occurs in “Adult Theaters” or “Adult bookstore” video booths. A person who becomes addicted to one activity will usually be addicted to other things as well. Basically, that person has an addictive personality this is a problem that needs expert attention. Men who participate in casual oral and anal sex with strangers, place their health at great risk. Should they be involved in a marriage or relationship, their wife or partner will suffer as well. So it is wise to use caution.


This article is written by licensed urologist Dr. Lorie G Fleck who is a highly qualified specialist. If you have any questions you can ask us through the feedback form and Dr. Lorie G Fleck will answer you within a working day. We care about every patient.

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